4 Simple Ways to Boost Your Child's Self Esteem

Thursday - November 20, 2014

Self-esteem is critical, and these simple strategies can improve it in your child.

 

Self-esteem is important for childhood development because it increases confidence, boosts mood, and generally creates a better environment for children to learn, play, and be themselves. Finding ways to boost your child’s self-esteem directly might seem challenging, but there are several simple strategies that go a long way to making your child happier, healthier, and more confident.

Try these four:

1.       Focus on all the positives. If you see your child doing something good, acknowledge it with a specific comment. For example, if you see your child sharing a toy with a sibling without being asked, say “I saw you share with your brother, and I’m proud of you for it.” Such specific, immediate responses work far better than vague comments like “You’re special.”

2.       Find solutions instead of blaming. If your child does something wrong, don’t call it out directly. Instead, ask your child how he/she can make the situation better. For example, if your child fails to clean up, don’t say “you forgot to clean up again!” Instead ask, “Something is wrong here. What do you think you can do to make it better?”

3.       Don’t give power to failure. Accepting some failures as a part of life is healthy, because failure will always exist. It’s something to learn from, not something to fear, so whenever your child fails at something, offer support by finding ways to learn from the experience.

4.       Don’t give all your compliments directly. Children know when they’re being doted on. Sometimes it’s more helpful if your compliments about them are told to a third party, such as telling your spouse how well he/she performed that day.

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Self-esteem is important for childhood development because it increases confidence, boosts mood, and generally creates a better environment for children to learn, play, and be themselves. Finding ways to boost your child’s self-esteem directly might seem challenging, but there are several simple strategies that go a long way to making your child happier, healthier, and more confident.

Try these four:

1.       Focus on all the positives. If you see your child doing something good, acknowledge it with a specific comment. For example, if you see your child sharing a toy with a sibling without being asked, say “I saw you share with your brother, and I’m proud of you for it.” Such specific, immediate responses work far better than vague comments like “You’re special.”

2.       Find solutions instead of blaming. If your child does something wrong, don’t call it out directly. Instead, ask your child how he/she can make the situation better. For example, if your child fails to clean up, don’t say “you forgot to clean up again!” Instead ask, “Something is wrong here. What do you think you can do to make it better?”

3.       Don’t give power to failure. Accepting some failures as a part of life is healthy, because failure will always exist. It’s something to learn from, not something to fear, so whenever your child fails at something, offer support by finding ways to learn from the experience.

4.       Don’t give all your compliments directly. Children know when they’re being doted on. Sometimes it’s more helpful if your compliments about them are told to a third party, such as telling your spouse how well he/she performed that day.

Stay tuned for the latest news and tips from Columbia Academy! Be sure you like Columbia Academy on Facebook and follow us on Twitter!

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