6 Reasons Why Yelling Never Works

Thursday - October 30, 2014

Even in your most frustrated moments, keep yourself from yelling; it's a terrible way of communicating and will always be counterproductive.

 

Yelling is a rare part of life for most of us. Only in our angriest or most terrified moments do we elevate our voices to an extreme level. In some cases, parents will yell at their children in order to heighten the level of importance or urgency of their message. However, yelling never works when speaking to a child (and rarely works for an adult), and here’s why:

1.       Yelling escalates the situation. Even if you try to control your emotions, yelling escalates them. If you’re angry, yelling will make you angrier. If you’re scared, yelling will make you more scared. Keep from yelling, and you’ll manage the situation better.

2.       Yelling creates fear. In some cases, fear is healthy—like if your child is afraid to cross the street by his/herself. But yelling creates a fear of a parent when there doesn’t have to be any. Don’t let fear enter your relationship.

3.       Yelling drowns the message. Children, especially young children, don’t hear the words carried by your yelling—they only hear the yelling. Your message will fall on deaf ears, and you’ll only be left with the negative consequences of that.

4.       Yelling sets a bad example. You’re showing your children that the right way to respond to a problem is to escalate it—and that’s not the example you want to set.

5.       Yelling gets old. If you yell at your child multiple times, they’ll eventually learn to tune it out, and it will become completely ineffective.

6.       Yelling triggers stress. Yelling at a child triggers a physical release of a stress hormone, in the form of a fight-or-flight response. That reaction prevents a healthy learning atmosphere. It might stop a behavior temporarily, but the child won’t learn anything.

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Yelling is a rare part of life for most of us. Only in our angriest or most terrified moments do we elevate our voices to an extreme level. In some cases, parents will yell at their children in order to heighten the level of importance or urgency of their message. However, yelling never works when speaking to a child (and rarely works for an adult), and here’s why:

1.       Yelling escalates the situation. Even if you try to control your emotions, yelling escalates them. If you’re angry, yelling will make you angrier. If you’re scared, yelling will make you more scared. Keep from yelling, and you’ll manage the situation better.

2.       Yelling creates fear. In some cases, fear is healthy—like if your child is afraid to cross the street by his/herself. But yelling creates a fear of a parent when there doesn’t have to be any. Don’t let fear enter your relationship.

3.       Yelling drowns the message. Children, especially young children, don’t hear the words carried by your yelling—they only hear the yelling. Your message will fall on deaf ears, and you’ll only be left with the negative consequences of that.

4.       Yelling sets a bad example. You’re showing your children that the right way to respond to a problem is to escalate it—and that’s not the example you want to set.

5.       Yelling gets old. If you yell at your child multiple times, they’ll eventually learn to tune it out, and it will become completely ineffective.

6.       Yelling triggers stress. Yelling at a child triggers a physical release of a stress hormone, in the form of a fight-or-flight response. That reaction prevents a healthy learning atmosphere. It might stop a behavior temporarily, but the child won’t learn anything.

Stay tuned for the latest news and tips from Columbia Academy! Be sure you like Columbia Academy on Facebook and follow us on Twitter!

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